Because it is not about what you do, it is about where you are coming from. How you relate.
When you face someone poor, destitute, broken, in need – how do you see him? How do you relate to her? As a victim needing to be saved? Someone less fortunate, less capable? Do you see a person that depends on you?
Or do you see a powerful, responsible human? Do you see a person whose choices you honor and respect? Do you see a peer? An ally?
Do you see an equal, a partner when you look into his eyes? When you do, you know what is there to be done for her. If there is anything to be done at all.
